So the other day, I got a comment on one of my live videos over on YouTube. The comment said something to the effect of my layout was nice, but other YouTubers could do it in 10 to 15 minutes. Wait, what?
I was almost offended by the comment, but then I had to take a step back and think about it for a second. It really was an unfair and nonequivalent comparison, not only because I am different and unique (as each of us are), but also because the video she was watching was different from those she was comparing it to.
In her short comment, I found so many life lessons. I had to come and share some of them with y'all.
- Be all the way LIVE - The main difference between my video and the videos it was being compared to was that my video was live. We have to remember to live our lives to the fullest... in real time, and have fun with it.
- Be Present - Being on a livestream means you have to be present, paying attention to everything happening all around you. We should live our entire lives in the present. In his book, The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle points out that you can never be in the past and you can never be in the future. You can only physically be in the present. So enjoy being there. Living in the present, focusing only on what's going on in the moment instead of the regrets of the past or the worries of the future, will change your entire life.
- Acknowledge and Be Kind to Everyone You Meet When I do a live video, one thing I make a point to do is try to acknowledge every person who joins. I want them to feel welcomed and warm in my virtual space just as if they were in my home. I try to answer all questions and make myself available for those who aren't comfortable chatting with me publicly. This is because I know what loneliness feels like. I understand feeling ignored... like I'm less than or don't matter. I don't want anyone to feel this way, especially if I can help it. I know I can't be all things to all people, but I can be kind to those in my presence. Do I even have to say that this is another life lesson that should be carried out in our everyday lives, whether online or offline.
- Slow Down - The world is moving so quickly. It's often said that this is a microwave generation. Everyone wants everything instantly. People don't want to wait or work for anything. But think about it, have you ever had a memorable meal from a microwave? I mean something so good you're still talking about it the next day. I can't recall any. But I can think of many family dinners, especially holiday dinners, that took a day and a half to prepare that were so good that we still talk about some of the dishes years later. See the thing is, sometimes making something memorable takes a little bit longer. Even if people leave my videos not remembering one sticker I put down, I want them to remember something I said that let them know that there's hope. I want them to remember that there's a reason to be grateful and that there's a little bit of joy in all things, even the most painful. I want them to remember that if I'm making it day-by-day, they can, too. Those aren't microwave messages.
- There's More Than Meets the Eye - Just because the title of one of my videos says "Plan with Me" doesn't mean that's all you're going to get. Sometimes I include hauls, sometimes there are Q&As, often there are mental health nuggets, sometimes there's even a hidden giveaway. You never know. In life, learn how to be flexible and available to receive the good "extra" things life has to offer. As a matter of fact, today I went to the mailbox expecting to get my regular bills and junk mail. Oh, but there was a completely unexpected check in there today!! Should I get upset, complain, and throw it away because I got something more than I expected? I bet you I won't.
- Make Good Choices - In life, we have to make choices, but you have to live with the consequences of those choices. You can always choose to not watch a video for whatever reason, but you may miss the golden nuggets. You may miss the answer to your question or the solution to a problem you've been having. You might miss the giveaway. You know the value of your time, your money, your energy, etc. Make wise choices.
- Comparison is the Thief of Joy - Comparing yourself to others or allowing others to compare you can really be a killjoy. It can make you feel inadequate, and leave you being ungrateful for the blessings you have... even the blessing you ARE! It's totally fine to be different. Always be yourself. Do what makes you happy. Do what works for you. Now I could easily adjust my style based on that feedback, but that would be counterproductive for me. Of course, there are plenty of times that I adjust based on feedback. I just refuse to change the way I do things simply because it's what others are doing.
Don't get me wrong. I LOVE getting feedback and constructive criticism. It helps me to grow. Comparing myself to others or allowing someone else to compare me just isn't fruitful to me.
Grass almost always looks greener on the other side, but if you go stand in in, you'll see that it was only an illusion caused by the distance. If it is greener, you might notice that it's fake or maybe, just maybe, you might smell the manure that's fertilizing it.